What is the one thing that surprised you the most? Why? What
other insights about communication did you gain this week? Choose at least two
to share with others through your blog and consider how each might inform your
professional work and personal life.
I am a very confident person when it comes to communicating
with others. I work with people face-to-face every day of the week and on the
weekends I like to be free to go and do as I please. At my work place I have
rules and guidelines and when I ‘m at home I still have rules and guidelines
for myself. I say what I feel in most situations and at times I mask my feeling
to avoid making people think I am not who I say I am. Sometime I want to be
quiet and other times I want to be noticed, not for what I do but for who I am.
I like making others happy.
My communication anxiety inventory score says that I’m
comfortable communicating in most situations, and I say it’s true. I sometimes
hold back my feelings and emotions to keep from hurting someone else’s feeling
or sometimes even telling the truth in fear of hurting another person, but that
I’m very confident. Why can’t I allow my feeling to be shared with others is
be4cause I think others will not share what I feel. I rarely allow people to
know when I’m hurting or afraid not because I’m a pion because I don’t want
anyone to know my week spots.
I had one of my co-workers evaluate me using the same
inventory. I explained to her that she needs to express her feelings towards me
and to answer the questions truthfully. I also picked this person because when
we’re at work she tends to say things to me when people are around that give me
the impression that she is trying to belittle me or make herself look like she
is all that and a bag of chips.
When I reviewed her responses to the communication anxiety
inventory our scores both fell in the low level meaning that I feel comfortable
communicating in most situations and feel confident in such encounters.
On the verbal aggressiveness scale my co-worker rank me
significant, meaning that I cross the
line going from “argumentative” which attacks
person’s position or statement, and verbal aggression which involves personal attack. I know why she answered this
way. I ranked myself moderate. I will
fight for what I think is right and not allow a person to ridicule me to make them
look good. Me and this particular co-work well together on most days. I feel I maintain a good balance between
respect and considerations for others viewpoints. I won’t allow people to embarrass me either.
My listening skills are sympathetic to others
so therefore my listening skills help me to build relationships. Group 1 on the
rating scale. My “self- concept” (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012, p. 47) shapes the
way I treat others. Where I work allows me to use my communication skills on a
daily basis. Through practice, understanding, and what I am learning in this
class, my skills are improving.
O’Hair, D., Weimann,
M. (2012) Real communication: An introduction. Bedford/St. Martin (2nd ed)
Boston-New York
